Yesterday
I was sitting at Starbucks having a very interesting conversation
over a very hot passion tea with a friend of mine. We were debating a
letter that I got from a young woman living in Fredericksburg,
VA. She wrote me that she was involved with a guy whom she deeply loved
and still loves deeply to this day. The female, who we will call "Sarah”,
described herself as a young 21 year old, with a high school education,
still living at home with her mother, working at a minimum wage job. The
boyfriend (we will refer to him as "Ed") she described as a
single father who has custody of two kids. She stated that he was a
college graduate working towards his Masters, as well as a successful
business manager and entrepreneur, plus he was 11 years her senior. One
week after spending a terrific romantic weekend with her ex, she said
that she had a message from God. The message was an order to end
the relationship because she needed to focus more on her career and
getting into school and less on being in love with Ed.
So the 7-month relationship ended bitterly because Ed felt that she was
not being reasonable with his or his kid’s feelings. The following
week she got drunk and had a wild sexual adventure with the next door
neighbor of Ed.. She proceeded to tell me that her Ed out and took it
upon himself to go to the guy’s house where she was harbored and make
demands for her to come out and explain herself. She was next door
at the neighbor’s house having sex. She told Ed that her reason to
break up was to better herself, and she said that she was sorry, but she
wanted happiness, and being in a structured family environment was not
for her, although she did write in her letter that she wanted to marry
Ed a week prior to the incident. She believes she was right in ending
the relationship and making the choices she made. So my question
is who was right and who was wrong? Before I give my assessment of the
situation I would love to hear your feedback on this matter.
